Gestational Rejection

(An addendum to 'Church, James1:8, Discussion, Matthew 28:19, Mentoring & Discipleship' by Amber Nicole Mills (@anicole83))

After reading the aforementioned note the following phrase stayed with me:

"Rejection and rebellion--> the two minds of [a] double-minded person. Often these individuals have been rejected severely as early as in gestation. Personalities are deformed and distorted or may not form at all."

Individuals that are the result of unplanned pregnancies begin life in struggle. They often live their entire lives fighting to peaceably exist or just "be" without constant mental condemnation, low self-esteem and uncertainty. Many have no idea why a place of rest, security and acceptance has been so hard to obtain.

That is why it is so important for those of us, who now know where to obtain such peace and assurance, to share this information with others. However, this may not be just by telling them but by living with them in example.

And you shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you rise up. (Deuteronomy 11:19 AMP)

Without going overboard, there are many unfortunate individuals impacted by gestational rejection, that may need consistent affirmation for a season until they understand that they are "kind, smart, and important" Lol!

Let's seek them out and make a difference. Secretariat was the foal that no one else wanted and turned out to became the first U.S. Triple Crown champion in twenty-five years, setting new race records in two of the three events in the Series—the Kentucky Derby (1:592⁄5), and the Belmont Stakes (2:24)—records that still stand today because someone took a chance, against what everyone else thought, and believed in him.

I came across this article just today: Steve Jobs’s Biological Father Regrets Adoption ( and I said to myself "I'm sure he does!" This isn't to address the reasons and the why. Rejection is part of a fallen creation. However, many need the redemption and restoration... the Good News that they ARE loved and God has had a plan for them, despite the conditions of their arrival. Let's be family to those that may need the security that comes from loving families.

The following is infromation gleaned from 'The Millennials: Connecting to America's Largest Generation' by Thom S. Rainer & Jess Rainer , B&H Books, 2011
In 1965, the first year of the baby bust, live births dropped below 3.8 million. The number of births had been over four million since 1954. The trend continued until 1980 when live births once again began a significant upturn.
The number of live births per year had been well below 3.5 million since 1972 until the spike occurred. In 1980, live births soared not only above 3.5 million but also above 3.6 million.
From 1965-1980, there was a huge emphasis on birth control, sometimes by abortion. Children were not valued. However, a significant majority of those born between 1980-2000 were raised to be hopeful. The parents of this generation ushered in a boom for fertility clinics and gave a clear message: children were valued."

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This is what the Bible says particularly about conception (whether planned or not):

Yet you brought me out of the womb; you made me trust in you even at my mother's breast.
From birth I was cast upon you; from my mother's womb you have been my God.
(Ps 22:9-10 NIV)

From birth I have relied on you; you brought me forth from my mother's womb. I will ever praise you.
(Ps 71:6 NIV)

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.
My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
(Ps 139:13,15-16 NIV)

As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother's womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the Maker of all things.
(Eccl 11:5 NIV)

This is what the LORD says--he who made you, who formed you in the womb, and who will help you: Do not be afraid, O Jacob, my servant, Jeshurun, whom I have chosen.
This is what the LORD says--your Redeemer, who formed you in the womb: I am the LORD, who has made all things, who alone stretched out the heavens, who spread out the earth by myself,
(Isa 44:2, 24 NIV)


"Listen to me, O house of Jacob, all you who remain of the house of Israel, you whom I have upheld since you were conceived, and have carried since your birth.
(Isa 46:3 NIV)

Listen to me, you islands; hear this, you distant nations: Before I was born the LORD called me; from my birth he has made mention of my name. And now the LORD says--he who formed me in the womb to be his servant to bring Jacob back to him and gather Israel to himself, for I am honored in the eyes of the LORD and my God has been my strength--
(Isa 49:1,5 NIV)


Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.
(Jeremiah 1:5 NIV)

But when God, who set me apart from birth and called me by his grace, was pleased... (The Apostle Paul)
(Gal 1:15 NIV)